BE A CONFIDENT
The Calm Dad's Guide to Birth will provide you with everything you need to be a wonderful birth partner. You'll understand why your unique role is key to a happy birth experience for everyone, and you'll have the tools to carry out that role confidently.
The Calm Dad's Guided Relaxation for dads-to-be will help you prepare your mind, soothing any anxieties and worries you may have about the birth.
70-PAGE E-BOOK + GUIDED RELAXATION
FOR YOU, YOUR PARTNER, AND YOUR BABY
Studies show that the presence of a loving and supportive birth partner significantly improves the mother's birth experience, reducing the need for interventions and leading to a more positive experience for all. And, of course, being involved intimately in the birth is a wonderful way to begin fatherhood, and set the stage for a healthy and loving relationship with your child.
WHY THE BIRTH PARTNER IS SO IMPORTANT
When a woman is in labour, she produces a powerful cocktail of hormones. These hormones are essential for keeping the uterine muscles contracting and labour flowing. One of the most important of these hormones is oxytocin, often known as the 'the love hormone'. When the woman's body is relaxed and freely secreting oxytocin, the uterine muscles work together, contracting and opening. If, on the other hand, she is anxious and tense, her mind triggers a fight or flight response in the body. Her body stops producing oxytocin, and instead floods with adrenalin. In this state of high alert, birth becomes more painful, as the muscles of the uterus become tense and unyielding.
With so much fear around childbirth, it's all too easy for the fight or flight response to be triggered. One key way to help the mother stay calm and relaxed is by ensuring that she feels safe and secure, in a kind and loving environment. A calm, relaxed, birth companion is essential for creating that environment. It's invaluable for the father to understand the process of birth and the techniques he can use to help ease pain and discomfort, but it's the quality of his presence that matters most. Is he nervous and anxious or is he reassuring, empowering and calm?
A calm and confident father transmits confidence, trust and love to his partner. He is intuitive to her needs and able to respond in ways that enable her to relax and let go. His empowered and loving presence promotes the production of oxytocin, keeps the birthing room adrenalin-free, and facilitates the flow of labour.
THE ROLE OF THE FATHER
Common fears and anxieties.
The different roles of the father during birth.
Being an effective advocate for you and your partner.
HOW BIRTH WORKS
The different stages of labour and what happens in each.
What happens during a contraction.
The power of the uterus.
SUPPORTING YOUR PARTNER
Staying connected and involved during pregnancy.
Creating your birth plan together.
Practical breathing and massage techniques for labour.
PREPARING YOUR MIND
Cultivating a positive mindset.
Mindfulness techniques to help you stay calm.
Learning to keep adrenalin at bay.
THE HORMONES OF BIRTH
The science of hormones: oxytocin vs adrenalin.
How fear affects childbirth.
Why the neocortex needs to rest during labour.
Adapting to life with your baby.
Postpartum nutrition and care for your partner.
The importance of mental health in the postpartum.
70 PAGES OF KNOWLEDGE AND TECHNIQUES
PREPARE YOUR MIND
with The Calm Dad's
This 10-minute guided relaxation is written to prepare you for the birth. It is designed to help you put fears and worries aside, whilst building confidence in your abilities to be a great birth companion.
It should be listened to regularly during the second half of the pregnancy.